Drama 🎭 Triangle
Imagine a hero.. enter a hero or heroine .. wanting to save the world! 🌎 Having to.. because.. that’s their job right!? I mean, aren’t we all just heroing ourselves and others in some way? Fighting back because.. someone has to! 💪🏼
Imagine a villian … they slink in the dark .. attacking at whim and believe the world and people are bad or wrong..😑 😈 Punishing and hurting helter-skelter!
Now, imagine a victim.. they have it the worst! Everything is hopeless as the people and this world has done them wrong. They protect themselves because Heros never come for them..that’s just the way it works in their worldview.
This is the Drama Triangle and many humans slip into it. It’s a big part of the Exogenous World. Which is comprised by adrenaline as the fuel.⛽️
Exogenous World:
In a society like this, every person is very reactive. Everyone is living in reaction vs response. It also re-cycles itself in a way that we bing around from villian to hero to victim and then back around again.
Wonder question: what would it be like to live your whole life in the Drama Triangle? Always heroing others though they haven’t asked for it. Taking on people as projects.. because it’s safer than fixing yourself. Failing and failing and being a victim in your own telenovella. No one wants me! I must be unlovable! Clutches chest! Or.. the villian. Out there attacking anyone or anything that isnt like them and fearful of any unnecessary changes.. a belief that people are fundamentally bad.
This society is consuming. It’s made up of little fear sheep trying to clone themselves like one another .. constantly trying to keep up and fit in. It’s a “I have to plug in 🔌 “ and it’s a contracting and ‘at the affect of’ …which is where we are being influenced or changed by a certain emotion. This type of society.. is driven by fear.
There’s hope!
Endogenous World:
In this society, we use creativity as fuel 💫 We are responding.. vs reacting. We use new resources over re-cycling the same ones. We are also response-able! Creating and in wonder! Which is using our responsibility to own our issues and make changes based off of it. We are generating vs consuming and we are creating vs contracting. We are resonating! “I am my own hotspot.” 💥
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How to Escape the Drama Triangle?
You have choices about what happens next. It’s called Evolutionary-based choices and you’re going to love the results!
Practice openness to learning and discovery
Let go of old positions and attitudes
Know what’s true as a whole-body experience (not just your mind you little analyzers..🤔)
Celebrate 🙌 your human body of knowledge.. and often.. we don’t celebrate this enough!
And.. BODIFY: feel your direct experience
This results in Expansion! Caring! And Connection!
While…others are controlled by their fear in the adrenaline-based choices. They experience reactivity. They rigidity hold positions about people and their own lives. They have disembodied opinions and beliefs. Contempt for collective knowledge/science/arts. A relentless focus on what’s and who’s wrong…
This results in separation, fear, power struggles, and contempt.
Not a very fun world 🌎
Here’s an escape hatch! Its called the Central Evolutionary Questions
Are you engaging with life? How do you know? 💭
How do you inspire play? 💭
What is ‘feeling good’ to you? 💭
Are you playing? Playing with what arises? Playing through the unknown/unexpected issues? 💭
Are you choosing? Are you able to choose? .. to choose freely? 💭
Are you connecting? Connecting results to intentions/feelings/what’s real? Connecting thinking/feeling/sensing into yourself? Connecting with this moment? Connecting with others…?
❤️ That’s all folks🤪
Diary of a Relationship Coach
*pic of dandelion from Michele Yusada