Easy World 🌎

How to embrace easy world and stop ‘struggle-bussing’ 🚌 💭

I’m going to ask you a question? (I know… that was a question); and I really want you to search deeply into yourself before responding. 🙏

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Have you experienced a loss? What happened? An event? A divorce or a hard breakup? How about cancer? Or you survived a car accident? Did you grow up with an emotionally unavailable parent? Or, perhaps a global pandemic?😷

How did it feel? How was your experience? Did you freeze? Did you feel utterly powerless and confused? Did you have to stay strong for someone else? Did you not allow yourself to feel? Did you feel at fault? Did you never feel safe again?

How has it shaped you? How have the effects of that situation changed you? Do you feel that a perfectionism in everything you do? Do you feel anxiety? Shame or guilt? Do you have difficulty in trusting? Do you avoid certain situations as a result? As a result, are you people pleasing and over-functioning? Perhaps experiencing nightmares or intrusive thoughts? Do you feel disconnected in relationships?

Well… you are not alone. You can stop ✋ asking yourself, “what is wrong with me??”

I’m here to support you in learning, what happened to me and how it shaped you.

Photo from Katie Hendricks

I have lived through my share of this. I don’t know about you… but when I first saw this chart… I found myself feeling very drawn to certain events, experiences and the effects of those experiences. The very … lasting effects of those experiences that I’m still learning to unlearn and process through even today.

I made a vow to myself when I was 13 to never … ever trust anyone to keep me safe. From that moment on … I’d do it myself. That was my EVENT. How it felt? No one came for me so I had to get myself out. It’s not okay to feel. I’ll probably never be safe again… and I froze and completely shut down. How did that shape me? Ooof..😅 I’m still fighting self sabotage thoughts off.., sometimes everyday. I have to resist a chronic irritability from being my go-to mood. I have and honestly will continue to tangle with perfectionism. And… perhaps the hardest to crack… I’m hyper vigilant and consistently scanning for threats in my environment which is a giant energy suck and I’d much rather use that energy for something else in my life! Which brings me to the other option.

How does this relate to easy world? 🌎

Living in easy world isn’t about denying that a painful experience once shaped you… it’s about discovering that even your deepest wounds carry the seeds of transformation.

When we hold onto a past that hurt us, that experience often lives on as a kind of inner “upper limit” that prevents us from enjoying the fullness of life. Instead of battling the memory or judging yourself harshly, you can begin to view that experience as a teacher that has informed you about what you need to feel safe, connected, and true to your essence.

I encourage everyone to move from a state of contraction… where old pain holds you tight… to a state of spaciousness and ease.

Try this:

One effective approach is to step into the felt experience of your body with curious openness. When you sense tension, sadness, or any other emotion associated with that bad experience, simply place your attention gently on that sensation. Breathe into it with connected, easy breaths. By doing so, you start to dissolve the mass of old conditioning and make room for new creative energy.

This shift can feel like moving from a tight, constricted space into a boundless zone where wonder and delight are available to you.

Or, this:

Another key aspect is rethinking your internal dialogue. Rather than letting that past define you, invite playful curiosity into your inner conversations. Ask yourself, “I wonder what I might learn from this?” or “What can this part of me teach me about living with more ease?” As you begin to speak these questions with respect and amusement, you'll notice a subtle change in energy… a gentle opening that allows you to access more of your inherent creativity and love.

And there is this:

Remember also that taking responsibility for your experience is liberating. By acknowledging that you have the power to choose how you feel and how you respond, you empower yourself to shift away from old patterns. You may find that practices which invite nonjudgmental presence help you reconnect with an inner state of ease even when memories of past trauma surface.

This is the one I chose. It was… liberating. I took responsibility for my vow. I felt myself choosing to thrive. Choosing to trust. Both myself and others. I became self-confident! I became more sure of my worth! I allowed more love in and started to believe.. that yeah… I am lovable !

*For more information on ways to invite nonjudgmental presence to help you reconnect with an easeful state through painful memories.

What does Easy World even mean:

Ultimately, living in an easy world 🌎 means giving yourself permission to experience both the pain of the past and the possibility of new, joyful ways of being.

It’s a process of balancing deep acceptance with a playful curiosity about life. Each time you consciously choose to breathe into your discomfort and transform it with wonder and love, you affirm that your past is not a life sentence but merely one chapter in the larger unfolding of your true, expansive essence.

Id like to share pics from my Vow era :

To my BEing era: (taken last night)

Always in Wonder,

❤️ Diary of A Relationship Coach

P.S. I am a Conscious Living & Relationship Coach. I am honored that my writing has gotten any attention at all… especially considering how a few years ago I had a surgery that took my speaking ability and I had to relearn how to speak… ahhh 😌 through WRITING!✍️ I love ❤️ writing and at the very first.. it was exhausting to write even a short sentence. Look at me now! Typing away!

Easy world 😉 🌎

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